Muhtaram / Muhtaramah ,
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Jazakillah for writing to the institute regarding this sad state of affairs.
Sister, I will be quite straight about this matter. If you have already asked his parents and your parents to talk to him and he refuses to stop, then I suggest that you ask your local imaam to talk to him.
If that does not help, then remind him about Allah Ta'ala's commandments in respect to the amaanat that has been placed in his care. Namely, his children. It also becomes incumbent upon you to protect these helpless children. You will also be held accountable as they are still too young to be able to speak up for themselves. I ask you to seriously think of reporting the matter to welfare if he does not listen to you. Tell him that you will do so if he does not stop beating them up. This is emotional, psychotically and physical abuse in its crudest form. Does your husband resent the fact that he does not have sons or is this his way of relating with anybody who he thinks he can bully?
Your daughters will grow up damaged, frightened, and unable to cope, without confidence and without a sense of how to relate with others amongst other damage that they could suffer. Please let me know what you think of my suggestions and if you will be able to go through with them. We can explore the matter further, insha'allah. May Allah Ta'ala guide all of you, protect your little girls and soften your husband's heart, ameen.
And Allah knows best
Darul Iftaa
Madrasah Inaa’miyya
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