Children are a Blessing

Being gifted with children is a great blessing from Allāh ta’ālā. For any blessing we receive we need to do shukr, i.e. be grateful to Allāh ta’ālā. True shukr meets the following requirements:

1. Realise the blessing is the result of the Grace of Allāh ta’ālā and that it has come to you without your being deserving of it.

2. Acknowledge your gratitude in your heart and express it verbally as well.

3. Use the blessing in the way Allāh ta’ālā wants you to, and observe the rules and limits He has set for it.

As with all blessings, Allāh ta’ālā has set rules and limits regarding the blessing of children too, e.g. when to be lenient, when to reprimand, what to teach them, what to keep them away from etc. Following these rules when dealing with children is called ta’līm and tarbiyah.

Giving children correct ta’līm and tarbiyah is a major responsibility of parents. If they fail to make proper arrangements for the ta’līm of their children and do not give them proper tarbiyah, they will face severe questioning on the Day of Reckoning. Failure to provide children with ta’līm and tarbiyah is failure to do shukr for the blessing of children.

Sending children to madrasah from the age of five to the age of twelve and completely handing over the responsibility of ta’līm and tarbiyah to their teachers is not sufficient or satisfactory. Even after enrolling their children in a madrasah, parents need to keep abreast of how they are learning and how their conduct and character are forming.



Any form of disrespect results in being deprived of knowledge, or at the least its barakāt. One should have adab for everything related to knowledge: teachers, books, classrooms, learning equipment, staff and even fellow classmates. Everything that plays a role in a student’s facilitation of knowledge is worthy of respect.