Ref no: 0037#
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Date: Tuesday, 22th March, 2011 |
Category
Marriage
Title
Would this marriage be permissible?
Question
as salam aleykum
I have a question.I have 1 wife already.But i frequently visit another city.I have seen a poor lady.Who needs alot of help By brother is telling me to marry her since it would maybe be impermissible to talk to her.My wife has no problems since she usually never gets into my things.I tried to get her a husband but she is a social reject.I know that if i marry her i wouldn’t be able to frequent her as often as i would with my normal wife.Since she would be living in a different city.Would this marriage be permissible.
Answer
Muhtaram / Muhtaramah
In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.
In principal it is permissible for a man to have four wives at once, However if one has two wives he must treat both justly. Allah Ta’ala says in the holy Quran; “Marry women of your choice two two, three three, or four four, but if you fear that you will not be able to deal justly (with them) then (take) only one. (04:03)
Your intention is praiseworthy Ahamdulillah. However you should bear in mind the following rules regarding justice in a polygamous marriage.
a. Whatever wealth, jewellery, clothes etc. the husband gives to one wife the other is also entitled to that or equal to that in value.
b. The husband will have to spend alternate nights with each wife. It is also compulsory to give each wife equal time at night. If he goes by one at 7:00pm the other deserves the same.
c. Intercourse is not necessary in maintaining equality. However, the husband should be considerate of the wife’s intimate needs. He should not leave her for more than four months without intercourse.
d. Equality is not wajib when embarking on a journey. The husband can take whichever wife he wishes, it is preferred to cast a lot to take in whose favor the lot was drawn. In this way there will be no unhappiness or dissatisfaction.
(Bahishti Zewar, Vol.1 Pg. 383-384).
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said; “He who has two wives and does not treat them equally and justly will come on the day of judgment in such a state wherein one side of his of body will be paralyzed”. (Abu Dawood, Vol.2. Pg.290)
Our advice to you is, make istikhara (seek Allah Ta’ala help though salat) as entering into a marriage is generally a huge step and in particular a polygamous marriage with all its intricacies and demands.
And Allah knows best
Darul Iftaa
Madrasah Inaa’miyya
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