I unfortunately got involved in a relationship with a woman older then me

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Date: Friday, May 20, 2011




I unfortunately got involved in a relationship with a woman older then me


I am a 29 year old guy. I unfortunately got involved in a relationship with a woman older then me, married & with kids (She made it all happen, from interaction to seduction), but I admit my mistake that I was blinded with the pleasure of this sin till it got too late and admit my blame as equal as her or even more.

I admit to Allah for my sins & I plea for His forgiveness. I have not indulged in anything even near to Zina (Allah knows best), but yes I had a physical relation. Since past 3 years I am trying to get rid of this relation, but this woman does not let me, she threatens me, fights with me & blackmails me. I have stopped myself from all physical interactions for a long time & neither have I expressed any emotions to fulfill her desire or shown mine in any form even if forced to limits, which is what actually makes her mad & misbehave with me a lot.

I am fed up of this situation, and all i desire is to have a life without this forced and illegitimate relation, free of sins. I am exhausted and tired,  I don`t wish to live a day under this pressure & threat.

Please if you can tell me any particular form of prayer (Dua, Amal or Allah’s name to recite during the day) to help me get out of this ordeal, I recite AR-Rahim 100 times after every farz namaz. I pray & request you noble people too, that Allah removes this dark cloud from my head very soon…Amen

I am in great need of your help, please tell me some dua with translation and proper pronunciation guidance please.



Muhtaram / Muhtaramah

In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.


There are two issues to your query

  • Getting out of the relationship
  • Dua

It is pleasing to note that you have realized your mistake and sincerely repent to Almighty Allah. This is the plot of Shaytaan who tries to mislead and frustrate us so that we do not concentrate on the objective of our existence viz, the obedience and worship of Allah.

You do not mention if you made Nikah with this woman. If it was just a Haraam relation, you should approach her and explain to her that you do not see any joy in being with her and therefore wish to terminate the relationship. By hiding away from the reality, you will only suffer and destroy yourself and your future.

A person involved in sin does become frustrated and exhausted as there is no peace and contentment in sin and vice.

Continue performing your Salaah and gain courage and support from recitation of the Quraan, Zikr and Dua.

Recite the following underlined Dua after every Salaah and as much as possible.

حدثنا يزيد بن هارون ثنا فضيل بن مرزوق ثنا أبو سلمة الجهني عن القاسم بن عبد الرحمن عن أبيه عن عبد الله بن مسعود قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ما أصاب أحدا قط هم ولا حزن فقال اللهم اني عبدك بن عبدك وابن أمتك في قبضتك ناصيتي بيدك ماض في حكمك عدل في قضاؤك أسألك بكل اسم هو لك سميت به نفسك أو أنزلته على أحد في كتابك أو علمته أحدا من خلقك أو استأثرت به في علم الغيب عندك أن تجعل القرآن ربيع قلبي ونور صدري وجلاء حزني ونور بصري وذهاب همي الا أذهب الله عزوجل همه وحزنه وأبدله مكانه فرجا قال يا رسول الله ألا نتعلمها قال بلى ينبغي لمن سمعها أن يتعلمها

May Allah remove your difficulties and keep you steadfast on Deen, Ameen.


And Allah knows best
Darul Iftaa

Madrasah Inaa’miyyah



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