I have been seeing a young Catholic woman

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Date: Wednesday, July 13, 2011




I have been seeing a young Catholic woman


I need some guidance on a very difficult situation that I am facing. I have been seeing a young Catholic woman who has now become pregnant with my child. My family as well as hers have both been informed of the situation. As much as each family would like, each individuals faith needs to be upheld. Most recently, she has stated that she needs to raise the baby catholic yet allow me to teach the child about Islam. She has also stated that she would have no problem with Halaal food and so on.

Kindly advice if I was to marry her what my options are.


Muhtaram / Muhtaramah

In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.


In principle, it is permissible to marry a Christian woman. However in doing so, if ones Imaan is weak and fears that such a marriage will cause more damage to ones Imaan,  then it is not permissible to marry such a woman.

Now you have two options, go ahead with the marriage and use your influence to bring her to Islam. If you feel that she is a strong Catholic and she will not heed to your influence and that marrying her will cause immense problems for you, then you should reconsider your intentions of marrying her. What pressure can you put on her before marriage that you will not be able to do after marriage. If you marry her, the child has to be raised as a muslim. The child can never be raised as a Catholic. If she intends raising the child as a Catholic and you will no option, then that is not a good sign.

And Allah knows best
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Madrasah Inaa’miyyah



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