Question
We live in UK. We are settled here. We are very religious. We always taught our children Quran-e-Pak and islamic values. But inspite of all this our daughter went on to marry a hindu. We left her and told her we will never see her again. We prayed Allah (swt), but our prayers were not accepted by Him and she went on and married a hindu. Allah (swt) Knows why this all happened. I can only say that we are one of the unfortunate people. For over two years we did not see her. We were so ashamed that we even stopped seeing our friends and now living a lonely life. But recently my husband had heart attack and was admitted to hospital. We did not tell any of our friend of his heart attack too. But she however heard from some one and came to see him in the hospital. Thereafter she comes on and off to see us at home. Her visit give us pain that she is living a life of sin. We do not know what to do. Please tell us how we handle this case.
We are really very unfortunate.
Some time when she comes she brings things to eat. Can we eat those things and particularly during Ramadan
If she gets children what will be their position/fate. Should or should we not contact the children.
Answer
Muhtaram / Muhtaramah
In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.
We understand the pain you must be going through. This surely must be a very painful period for you. We make dua that Allah opens the way out for you soon.
It is imperative that we put everything into perspective here. It is evidently clear that your daughter really loves this man. She loves her parents too. That is why she is still maintaining contacts with you and visiting her father in the hospital. Despite her love for her parents she is prepared to sacrifice them for her partner. It is evident that she has already made her choice. By you cutting relations with her, it will not bring her back. She has already shown you in her past that she has chosen her partner. Now you want the best for your daughter, not only for this world but for the Akhirat as well. And Akhirat is forever.
So it is imperative that you maintain strong relations with your daughter if you are given the opportunity. Try and show her and her partner a lot of love and kindness. This will draw them close to you. Initially avoid getting into debates, arguments and disputes with them. Use wisdom and use ways to draw them closer to you. As time passes you will see they will become comfortable and will open up to you. That’s when you need to slowly invite her partner to Islaam and perform their nikah. You shouldn’t consider what people will say. You should consider the Akhirat of your daughter. By distancing yourself from your daughter you are risking all possibility of her and her partner performing nikah. That’s causing harm to her Akhirat.
Our experience from numerous cases is that trying to break the relationship will not work. Maintain relationships with her children and shower them with gifts and love. Mak dua to Allah for his hidayat, and your Islamic Ikhlaaq will definitely attract him.
If the food does not contain any haraam ingredients and no hindu prayers were said over them, it will be permissible to eat.
And Allah knows best
Wassalam
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