Muhtaram / Muhtaramah
In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.
It is a great quality to have this eagerness to cook for your husband and keep him happy. May Allah always keep your marriage blissful and keep it safe. You should discuss your situation with your husband and explain to him your desire to cook for him. By desiring and insisting on cooking for your husband you are not disobeying your mother-in-law nor are you committing any sin. Such an action is not considered to be rude.
Marriage is the coming together of not only two people, but two families. To keep ties and stay in harmony is part or marriage. However, as a wife you are bound to serve your husband only. Your duties and rights are in relation with him and not your in-laws. It is a virtuous deed to be kind toward your in-laws and help them in their daily lives, but it is not incumbent upon you to serve them. Therefore, you should try to the best of your ability to get along with your mother-in-law. Be gentle with her and help her out in the kitchen while she’s cooking and doing other daily chores. Adopt methods of winning her approval. It might seem hard in the beginning, but good character and patience will change her attitude toward you and eventually she will start treating you more kindheartedly.
If it seems too difficult to bear, you may ask you husband for separate accommodations. The financial status of both husband and wife will be taken into consideration on the level of accommodation.
Therefore, we advise you to discuss this matter with your husband and figure out what is the best solution. Do not keep your feelings hidden from him, and express to him openly how you feel. Inshallah by mashwera, the existing problem will be solved.
And Allah Knows Best
Wassalam
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In'aamiyyah
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