Question
1. i have 10 year old girl from my ex husband. we at the time named my daughter NAIHA. looked it up on internet under arabic names, which said it meant beautiful and complete. from recent education and more knowledge islamically and the surroundings i understands its an indian name with out any islamic or arabic meaning. my daughter isnt happy with it for this reason, and asked her dad to allow her to change her name, but he disagreed and disallowed. what can i do in this matter?
2. my husband stops talking to me over small matters ie if i answer mobile phone late (3 rings). he wont talk to me and doesnt answer my calls. i become very tense and dont like it when this happens. i beg and plead. what should i do. what can i read to decrease his anger for no reason.
Answer
Muhtaram / Muhtaramah ,
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
The name Naiha is a commendable name that has the following meanings;
1) Eminent.
2) Illustrious.
3) Exalted.
4) Honored.
5) Respectable.
(Al Mujid Fi Al Lugat Wal Al A’alam.Pg.850.Al Mataba Al Sharqiya).
In a marriage relationship there are always ups and downs. No matrimonial relationship is free from this. Keeping this in mind, it is important to consider the temperament of your husband and abstain from any such thing that may annoy or irritate him as this is essential for a blissful relationship.
The appropriate thing to do at this moment is to endure patience and turn your attention to Allah Ta’ala and seek His assistance through dua (supplication), zikhr, nafl salat, and sadaqah (charity) etc. Allah Ta’ala says in the Quran;
‘And seek help in patience and prayer’. (02:45)
Express your feelings to your husband and let him know how you feel. Let him know that you never intended to hurt his feelings in anyway and whatever you have done was a mistake. And you will abstain from such mishaps in future. A mutual conversation always helps in marital issues.
You should also make dua (supplication to Allah Ta’ala) for him and perchance you encounter any undesirable confrontation with him then recite Ta’awuz (A’auzu Billahi Min Al Shaytan Al Rajeem) abundantly.
You may do things together that would create love among you for example, eating together, reading Islamic books together etc. Showing him that you are delighted with his presence is very important. Similarly doing things that he approves and abstaining from things he may disapprove with, plays an important role in ones relationship. A simple example is, keep the phone near you so as to answer it on the first ring.
Allah Ta’ala says in the Quran; “And surely the mercy of Allah Ta’ala is (ever) near to the good doers”. (07:56)
And Allah knows best
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