if you are allowed to have sex

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I wanted to know if you are allowed to have sex or engage in sexual activities with a muslim girl you are going to marry but are not yet married to?





Muhtaram / Muhtaramah


In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.

Engaging in sexual activity with a girl before marriage is Zinaa. Allah says in the Quraan: “Do not even come close to Zinaa.” (Surah 17 Verse 32)

Committing Haram will make us earn the wrath of Allah. A youngster came to Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم and asked him permission to fornicate. Nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم asked, “Would you want that any man goes to your sister or mother?” He replied in the negative. So Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلمcommented: “the woman you want to fornicate with is the mother or daughter of somebody”.

Consider the above and ask Allah to give you strength to stay away from Haraam. We suggest you get married to this woman as soon as possible.


And Allah knows best


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