Friend of mine has been married with christen girl

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Date: Sunday, May 1, 2011




Friend of mine has been married with christen girl


Friend of mine has been married with christen girl, what are the order of Islam for their Children. Will be they Muslim or christen or what way they can use which is not confusing for children because when child is young he will not be able to choose what religion he wants to follow?



Muhtaram / Muhtaramah

In the Name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāh wa-barakātuh.

Jazakallah Khair for writing to the institute regarding your friend’s marriage to a Christian woman.

Muslims living in the west have this misconception that marrying a Christian woman is acceptable and presents no future problems.

Another belief is that a Christian woman is part of the “People of the book” and therefore there is no need to ask her to take shahadah.

In Islam, a child is brought up on the religion of the father. You are absolutely correct when you point out that it will be confusing for the children if they have parents who belong to two different religions. The mother is the child’s first school, it is most important that the child learns Islam from its mother. How is this child going to know whether Islam is being imparted to it from early childhood? A Muslim father will be held accountable to Allah Ta’ala if his children go astray. No matter how much he may try to rationalise and make excuses, he will have to stand up before Allah Ta’ala on the day of Qiyamah and account for his failure to fulfill his children’s rights over him.

It will be best for your friend to invite his wife to Islam with tolerance, wisdom and patience. Let her experience the beauty and glory of Islam so that she will feel inclined towards it without feeling that she is being coerced or blackmailed into accepting Islam. There are many hundreds of revert Christian women in Australia and it will be a good idea if she can meet some of these sisters, insha’allah. It may perhaps be necessary for your friend to start visiting the masjid more often and it will be wise for him to meet with more Muslims who are inclined towards practicing the sunnah of our beloved Nabi (sallallaahu alayhi wassallam). May Allah Ta’ala guide all of us and preserve us on the His deen, ameen.

And Allah knows best
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